“The sandwich generation, they call us. I’d say it’s more like a kebab—lots of chunks skewered together. And we’re the thin wiry bit, holding it all together.” ―Cate Ray
Nearly half of all adults in their 40s and 50s have a senior parent and a child they are financially supporting, reports Pew Research. These adults, the so-called “sandwich generation,” face financial and emotional burdens, with more pressure oddly coming from grown children than from aging parents. Around 75% of them say they are responsible for providing financial assistance to an elderly parent in need. It is easy to see that finding balance can be difficult when one barely has time and resources to devote to oneself.
Not All is Doom and Gloom
The good news about being part of the sandwich generation is that many members are just as happy with their overall lives as other adults. Around 31% report that they are “very happy,” and 52% classify themselves as “pretty happy.” However, they are more likely to say that they lack the time to get everything done. Moreover, those helping their parents out financially are less likely than those who do not provide this support to say they live comfortably.
Considering Respite Care
When loved ones age, their children can feel guilty if they don’t provide all or most of the care their parents need. However, there are many services that they often are not qualified to give, including physical and occupational therapy, which can help seniors stay fit and carry out their daily tasks independently. For instance, occupational therapists can help older adults improve their fine and basic motor skills, dexterity, strength, and range of motion. One option to consider is respite services, in which older loved ones spend part or all of their day either in a center or at home, being attended to by professionals. Attending a respite care center is a good way to broaden their horizons and encourage them to be part of a supportive social group. Doing so also enables them to strengthen specific skills, including cognitive and motor skills.
Embracing Structure
One of the most important strategies when it comes to balancing work and family life is to create structured schedules that both kids and older parents are aware of. This schedule can include work, meal times, medication time, and leisure activities. Self-care should be included in this schedule. Individuals can lower their likelihood of stress and burnout by ensuring they get seven to nine hours of quality sleep, eat nutritious meals, and work out for around 30 minutes daily or 150 minutes weekly). Self-care is far from an act of selfishness. It is a way to maintain energy and mental well-being to enable people to provide optimal care to their loved ones.
People who form part of the sandwich generation seem to be thriving in their roles. However, some are facing financial and emotional challenges, especially those having to support their loved ones financially. Finding balance involves strict time management, establishing schedules, and considering help in the form of respite care or help from loved ones.
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